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I've Been Married for Twenty Years Without One Argument

I would like every married couple who has been married for at least one year to sixty years to raise your hand if you have never been angry with each other. I should not see any hands raised. If there are a few all I can say is :"Lies you you tell!!!" In the voice of the famous Tamar Braxton-Herbert.  There is no way that you can love someone and never have an angry moment. I have to admit my husband and I have been married close to forty years and while we have not had many blow ups we have had a few.

Morning Joy

God has given the married couple a beautiful gift in that we can wake up every morning with the love of our life. We can open our eyes and see love laying right beside us and just give God thanks. This new year our Lord wants us to focus on the beauty of our union. As married couples we need to celebrate this awesome gift. One of the ways that we have rediscovered this year is our morning intimate sessions. 

The first thing that comes to mind when I mention this is our physical intimacy.

Never Thought that Retirement Could Be a Marital Issue

There are so many seasons of marriage I thought after over 30 years I had seen them all, but I found out that I was so wrong. Believe it or not there is yet another hurdle that married couples are facing now. That hurdle is retirement. Who knew that one day this could be a problem. For those of you who are not a baby boomer you are not faced with this dilemma so you could save this post for that time way in the future or you could read this and understand that proper communication is needed during every phase of marriage.

When the music stopped so did the love

I am a child of the early 50's. Growing up there was one thing that was very consistent and that was music. It was all around us. We as children and through out our teens even into our early adulthood there was music. We learned to appreciate all types of music. Gospel, jazz, rock and roll, country, classical, hard rock , and contemporary. It didn't matter. What mattered was that this music had words that inspired and seemed to generate love.
Whether it was love acquired, love desired, love lasting, love wanting, or love that had been lost but wanting to be regained.

What Married Couples Really Need

We had no idea when we decided to get together with friends as three happy Valentine's couples just what we would discover. We are all in ministry either ministers, deacons, or the director of music in our churches. We each have separate ministries outside of church. The guys are also together in an up and coming male gospel group and we the ladies are their supportive others. Then we have outside work and families to take care of.
So to say that we are very busy is really an after thought.

Could you tell me...what is love and where does love dwell?

Love is in the Air!!! Its that time of the year that we can just sit back and focus on the things of love. Many have mixed ideas about Valentines Day being a made up holiday so that the card etc. companies can make some money this could be true or not. I really don't care. What I do care about is that there is a time that everyone can recognize that its time to outwardly show love.
Its fun to walk through the stores and just see all of the red, pink, white balloons, teddy bears, and lovely flowers.

The Happiness Animal

Everyone is looking for happiness. For the most part they are running around looking from peak to valley attempting to catch the elusive animal called "Happy". Many couples run down the aisles on their wedding day thinking "now I got it" I have finally caught that happy animal. Only to become discouraged the next month after the party to find out the happy animal got away and all you are left with is more reality of an unhappy life. Well lets clear things up once and for all. There is no happy animal and no matter how hard you try to capture it from outside you will never have it. Your spouse does not have a magic pill that once taken you will be happy ever after. That only works for the ending of a fairytale. Happiness is the by product of joy which is one of the fruits of the HOLY SPIRIT. When you receive that fruit then happiness will follow. In other words joy will be given to you from within and come out as happiness. Both spouses must obtain this fruit before the marriage by spending time with the HOLY SPIRIT learning how to be the best "You" that you can be. As you allow the SPIRIT OF GOD to develop you into the person that you need to be then you can bring that character into your marriage. Likewise your mate prior to marriage should be standing before the HOLY ONE as well learning how to obtain the fruits as well. Once you both learn at the feet of CHRIST then become one with marriage then and only then will the fruit of joy permeate through out your marriage and happiness will be obtained. Joy will sustain you even during the difficult times and its by product happiness will continue to be apart of your relationship. So stop running around looking outside for something that is waiting to grow within. Stop trying to seek out people to give you what only God can develop in you. Remember we have not because we ask not. Go to the source of all things and pray for the fruits of the HOLY SPIRIT. Then walk in your love, joy, and peace as you share your life with your beloved.

Take Time To Reboot Your Marriage

In the computer world there is a term used known as "rebooting". This means to restart a computer's operating system. When a computer is overloaded it does one of three things freeze, shuts down, or crashes. To avoid this most computers experts simply reboot the system. As a married couple without daily work on your marriage you can tend to fall into a rut. Boredom will set in and before you know it your marriage is in a routine. Doing the same things in the same way over and over tends to bring complacency into the relationship.

Show Love with these 5 ways!

Show Love with these 5 ways!
Attention, acceptance, appreciation , affection and respect.
1.Attention:Make time to sit and talk to one another each day. Give your spouse or mate your undivided attention. Really practice listening and do not let anything interfere with this time.
2.Acceptance:We must accept each other for who we are. We can only change ourselves with God's help. As we change then our spouses and mates will see the new us and want to change too. Love grows when we can accept each other unconditionally.