Who would ever think that their spouse could be their bully? As spouses you are suppose to be friends with each other. You are suppose to be together in love and peace. Together you are suppose to share your life for as long as you are blessed to be alive. However how many of us are living daily with a bully.
I know some of you are thinking that will never be my marriage. My spouse loves me and will never attempt to push me around. Many times when a spouse is a bully the other spouse is not aware of it.
On our new social network Feeling God there is a wonderful young lady who has a diary ministry in support of marriage. Its called "marriage the next generation". She has allowed me to use her name in this blog. I thank you marriage the next generation for your support of this ministry and Feeling God. So with that said I would like to get on with this blog.
Marriage the next generation.
Many are saying that marriage as God created it is dead. That we must embrace the new and throw out the old.
A great song writer Burt Bacharach
wrote a song called "what the world needs now is love....sweet love. It's the only thing that there is just too little of". I use to love that song. I was very young when the song came out but I really loved the words. I could tell that it had been inspired by God even at my young age. As we face all the worlds tragedies that have taken place lately I have seemed to be drawn back to the words of Mr. Bacharach's song.
I have never seen the world so hopeless and in despair.
As we approach Valentine's Day many people who normally would not think of love begin to do so. We see men standing in line at the nearest grocery, or drug store with pink, red, and white candy hearts in hand. We see them with roses in red or whatever color they can get them. Some look as if its a chore to be doing this type of shopping. Some look as if they are completely lost just there following the leader. Then there are some who appear happy and take their time to read each card to make sure it says just the right thing.
Time to invite God In
There should never be a
time that you don't invite God into your individual life. As a couple it
is very important to invite him in together as one so you can receive
His guidance for your lives as a unit. He is the head of your family and
before the body can move it must get the signal from the head. God's Word
as given to us from the bible emphasizes the significance of our
spiritual condition. It tells us the importance of being on the same
page as a couple spiritually.
Autumn is a great time to still plan dates outside
however you may want to go out the house but do something indoors. So
with that in mind and the fact that this time of the year is
a reflective time it would be good to plan educational dates. Now please
don't stone me just yet. These dates can be fun and you can learn
something at the same time.
For example you could plan a date at one of the
many museums downtown. You could pick one and then browse around finding
out as much information as you can.
If you have been
married or in a relationship for awhile its very easy to get into a rut.
Even if you are the couple who have date nights after awhile you will
notice that you are doing the same old things. Going to dinner at the
local chicken or burger joint then going to a movie where one of you or
both fall asleep and you have to buy the movie on dvd anyway. You may
decide to just stay home and be together as you watch your dvd or cable
tv. You may play the same game each and every week.
Friends of Intimate Conversation
*use conversation to learn and understand more about your spouse or mate*
*develop interest in your spouse's favorite topics of conversation*
*balance conversation: both sides have to talk and listen!*
*give undivided attention to each other by eliminating distraction like the TV and newspaper etc. Focus on each other and communicate!*
Enemies of Intimate Conversation
*forcing people to agree with you*
*dwelling on mistakes, past and present*
*using conversation to punish one another*
You can be happy by making your partner happy!
You can keep yourself happy by finding
ways to make your partner happy. Watch persistently for ways to please,
praise, and protect each other without expecting something in return. In
other words develop an attitude of service. Serving your partner is a
key principle toward building a solid marriage or relationship. This
does not mean you act as a slave or a doormat for abuse. What this means
is that you have identified that in order to have a great marriage or
relationship you need an attitude of service and sacrifice.