Marriage Buddies Studies
We are offering marriage buddies studies here as a new way of service for those who maybe in a difficult season of their marriage. This is in answer to your demand for this service.
The Winter Season of Marriage
Any one that has been married for more than one second knows that marriage has seasons filled with ups and downs. For our study session we are going to look at the winter season of marriage.The winter season of marriage is when most couples seek some form of counseling.
It is a season in their marriage when the couple is cold towards each other and their union. You don't have to be in your mid-life years or have been married for many years to find yourself in the winter season of your marriage. The winter season of marriage is characterized by harshness, bitterness and coldness towards each other. The couple no longer connect as they should. If they converse with each other its merely about logistics: who will do what and when.When a conversation begins that involves their relationship it typically ends in an argument that goes unresolved. Most of the time one or both parties end up with hurt feelings leading to anger.
Most couples during this season just live in a cold silence. As time goes on instead of being the couple that they once were they become separate and begin to lead independent lives while living together in the same house. Both spouses blame the other for the coldness of the relationship.How does the couple arrive at the winter season of marriage? Most get there by their unwillingness to consider the other's perspective and to work toward a meaningful compromise. All loving couples have conflict and differences. There maybe many reasons for these conflicts for example it could be centered around money, religion, in-laws, sex, lack of time with each other. However no matter what the reason for the the difference or conflict the couple must come together and attempt to negotiate and find a resolution to the problems.
Those couples who fail to attempt a negotiation of their differences or conflicts will land their marriage smack in the middle of winter. Remember this one thing about the winter season of marriage it is not a season caused by the conflicts and differences but by the manner in which the couple responds to those conflicts and difficulties. Winter a season that has been created by one or both marriage partners insisting on their "own way or not at all". A season of drifting apart without making an effort to rekindle the fire of love and intimacy. Winter a season where the couple don't put forth a united effort to save the marriage. If the couple don't do something to stop the progression of the winter season then winter may last a month or it may last thirty years.
Remember the winter season can begin three months after the wedding or hit in the midlife years of the couple.Every season of marriage has certain emotions, attitudes, and actions associated with it. The interaction of these factors will determine whether the couple will stay in that season or move on to a better season. Not only that the interaction of these factors will determine if that couple will stay together or not. Many people have seen a couple who appeared so happy on the outside suddenly separate and divorce as soon as their last child has graduated high school. Many of those couples have been in the season of winter and have put on an outside front for the sake of their children and friends until they no longer had to.
Our goal in this study is to explore the factors associated with the winter season of marriage and determined ways to solve the problems so all couples in this season may move on to a better season of marital bliss. Our next study will look at these three factors. We suggest that you copy this study and reflect on the information. So that you can continue with the next section of this study.
Assignment for study and reflection
Read, meditate, and memorize on the following scripture:Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy it does not boast, it is not proud. 1st Corinthinans 13:4
Once you have mediatated on this one scripture then pray and ask God to reveal to you how this applies to your marriage during this winter season.
Next write in your own words what this means to you. Memorize the scripture. If you and your spouse are able to communicate then both of you read the above information about the winter season and both do the assignment. Then sit and talk about it. If you are not able to communicate then you do it and stay in prayer over your marriage.
Remember we are here for you and you may email us or you can leave a comment with your email address and we will respond. We will give you an answer from a male and female buddy.It will take prayer and hard work to restore your relationship back to a better season.
Just understand anything worthwhile having takes work. You are never alone in this we are your marriage buddies and we are here to hold you up until you no longer need us.
Coming online home studies that you and your spouse can work on together or separately. These studies are low cost and offer one on one mentor answers from both male and female mentors. Visit often and be the first to download your study. Remember our goal is to get to a better place in your marriage. It is not a counseling session.